Yeah when I said ‘work’ I wasn’t only referring to household chores, I meant emotional support and labor. These are things women tend to do a lot more of then men in heterosexual relationships. Generally speaking. Not always.
While women grieve the wasted effort they put into a failed relationship, men are grieving the absence of certain routines, support and intimacy they grew accustomed to. But you’re right, it’s because they never learned how to handle their feelings correctly. :( overall, tragic.