Very well researched and compelling. As a survivor, I too feel the exact same way. I do feel as if I sacrificed a lot of myself in order to report my rapist, although very little has happened to him. I actually went into it expecting nothing would come from it, I think I just wanted to make sure it was documented somewhere. He is now suing my sister and I. We have decided to countersue, but I often regret speaking up about it at all. I think about how much closer I'd be in my journey to recovery and peace if I'd just pretended it never happened. I would never judge any victim for choosing silence. It makes so much sense.

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