This past week I endured a 10 hour questioning from the lawyer defending my rapist in which he actually asked me to define some of the specific traits/characteristics you described above. I find the timing of your publishing of this article to be quite validating. I was stressing over if I articulated these things well enough in the deposition and it seems I might have! I’m so glad that more and more survivors are sharing their thoughts around these behaviors. As survivors, I feel like we never know what bit of information or verbiage is going to be the most compelling to us during these dark moments we often have. It’s the most beautiful thing to me that our words can have such an impact on other victims in ways we literally have no idea they can! Thank you so much for sharing!