My “it shouldn’t matter” is directed at the people who take time out of their day to debate about these things, which is where the misogyny lies. There shouldn't be a debate because whether everyone on the internet agrees she did it or not doesn’t matter. Or, at least, it shouldn’t. In my opinion. As you said, you can’t blame her for not announcing her choice because her situation is impossible. Nor does she owe us an announcement.

We are bound to feel less than if we obsess that much over celebrities, which I think is unnecessary and concerning. Young girls may have no choice but to see these images because of social media and technology. It’s awful. Our culture is f**d. These are the consequences of our culture being obsessed with beauty, which I addressed.

Thus, the point of this piece. It’s a trap. There’s not a happy ending here. I don’t think it’s right at all. I went through it. I have body dysmorphia because of it.

I was proposing that if we acknowledge that celebrity standards are completely unrealistic and that it’s nonsensical to compare apples to oranges (a celebrity face to a non-celebrity face) then we may be easier on ourselves when the stupid products we buy don’t transform us into JLo. That was my conclusion, to stop caring about what celebrities look like. That’s all I got!

This piece was basically me talking my past insecure self out of the very issue that you address. It’s my rationalization for the fact that I will never look like a celebrity, but it’s fine and doesn’t matter because society is set up that way. Because I wish someone would have put that into perspective for me a long time ago.

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