It’s unfortunate that this is a common narrative for so many women. The reality of the situation is, grooming can happen to anyone at any age within the existence of an unbalanced power dynamic. Even if it is your boss who is the same age as you. What matters is the manipulative intent and behavioral pattern.

I appreciate the work you do to spread awareness to younger girls. I wish I’d had access to this information when I was a teen. Now, I try to do the same and make sure every woman in my circle is aware of these red flags and insidious patterns.

By the way, you are not stupid for falling for any of this. It’s unfortunately the way that grooming and love bombing are designed, and they could work on a 35 year old the same way that they would work on an 18 year old.

Excellent piece! Thank you for sharing 💙

Freelance Writer. Blogger. Advocate. I write about trauma, recovery, and critical analysis of media and culture. Contact Me: