I read this and despite not technically disagreeing with most you said, I got this weird feeling in my gut and I couldn’t put my finger on why. Then I read the comment section.

While your advice is great for anyone, any gender, you point it at women. This emboldens incels who like to blame women for their less than amazing experiences in dating. Because they’re not “picking the right ones” because they “believe they deserve more but they don’t” “standards are too high.”

Its not your fault incels are the way they are and I don’t even necessarily think you’re wrong. We must all ask ourselves what we bring to the table. But I don’t quite understand your purpose for aiming this at women.

Do most women see themselves as a prize? Are women really not bringing “anything” to the table in relationships? Has any of this been a thing? I guess it’s a matter of experience and perspective. As far as I have seen, women are carrying most relationships, and are often under-appreciated.

Thought provoking piece! Well written.